Date: 6/17/2008 12:18 pm
Do you often find yourself “breaking” the resolution within a few weeks?
Did you know that over 50% of people who set New Year’s Resolutions each year will not achieve their goals? Every year people approach the “new year” as a time to start fresh. While it is nice to honor traditions, one reason why many New Year’s Resolutions fail is because people make them for the wrong reasons, or because they make the project seem too large or insurmountable.
If you want to successfully change a behavior (at any time of the year), then:
- Believe that you have the ability to change.
- Take responsibility for you actions. Don’t get caught up in excuse making or self-blame.
- Concentrate on results.
- Understand your motivators and reasons why the resolution is important.
In order to successfully achieve your resolution(s) this year, I suggest that you:
- Start by determining your motivators. Are you choosing to change because you want to change behavior or because someone else wants you to change? What are the risks, costs, and benefits to continuing the specific behavior? Make sure that the resolution is something that is within your control.
- Focus on one resolution at a time. Once you decide on a resolution, break it down into manageable, achievable steps. Write out your plan. Make it as specifi c as possible. Cross off each step/goal as you achieve it. This will help you see progress and keep motivated.
- Create a sense of accountability. Make your resolution known to family, friends, and co-workers. Ask for whatever type of help you will need in order to be successful. This might involve words of encouragement, not bringing alcohol or sweets into the house, or monitoring progress.
- Remember that changing a pattern of behavior takes time. Expecting fast results can lead to feelings of failure and a desire to give up. Go back to your list to see how far you have come. Check in with your support system for feedback and words of encouragement.
- Forgive any lapses and persist toward your goal. Having a “bad” meal or day is just that. It does not mean that you have “failed” to reach your goal. Refocus on your original motivators and continue to move forward.
I can help you develop a plan and meet the goals that you have established for yourself.
To make an appointment for coaching you through your
New Year’s Resolutions, call Dr. Lisa Irgang at (224) 622-5842.